Helping adults understand themselves more deeply so they can respond to life with greater clarity, freedom and harmony.
Sometimes the answers we seek aren’t found by trying harder, but by understanding ourselves differently.
Most of us know, at least roughly, how we’d like to live. And yet we catch ourselves reacting in the same way, holding back in the same way, or carrying the same quiet heaviness, without quite knowing why. These sessions are a place to slow down and look at that with curiosity rather than judgement.
Hello, I’m Vasudev
I’m Vasudev Bajpai. I’m interested in why people feel, react and choose the way they do, and I work with adults who share some of that curiosity about themselves.
Often the people I meet have already tried willpower, advice and good intentions. What they want now is understanding: what keeps repeating, where it may have begun, and what it might be quietly protecting.
Part of my curiosity about people comes from my own life. For more than ten years I struggled with bipolar disorder and ADHD, and learning to understand my own patterns has shaped how I listen.
In our sessions we take our time. I won’t hand you a list of tips. I’ll help you see your own story more clearly, so that change can come from understanding rather than from pressure.
I see people online across India and in person in Lucknow.
Is this for you?
Perhaps you’ve responded to something in a way that surprised you, and later wondered where it came from. Perhaps life looks settled from the outside, yet something inside feels restless or unfinished. Perhaps you’re facing a decision about work, someone close to you, or where your life is heading, and you’d like to understand yourself before you choose. Or perhaps an old loss, or an old family story, still seems to shape your days.
You don’t need a name for what you’re feeling, or a problem to solve, to begin. Being curious about yourself is reason enough.
How it works
1. Request a time.
Choose a time on the booking form on the Fees & Booking page.
2. Get your confirmation.
Within 4 hours, I’ll email you to confirm your session, with the payment details.
3. Pay and attend.
Once payment is done, we meet online or in person in Lucknow.
How I think about people
When something keeps repeating in our lives, it’s natural to ask, “How do I get rid of this?” I tend to ask a different question: “What is this trying to protect?” The reactions we least understand in ourselves often turn out to have their own logic. Once we can see it, there is more room to respond differently.
This way of thinking comes from The Friction Therapy, a framework I’ve developed for understanding how people grow and change. You don’t need to know anything about it to come to a session. It simply shapes how I listen.
Our sessions are unhurried and confidential. We go at a pace that lets real understanding take shape, and what you share stays between us, within the limits explained below.
Fees
Individual sessions are ₹1,200 for 40 minutes. Each session is booked on its own, so there’s nothing to sign up to, and your first session costs the same as any other.
From my writing
Recent writing
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The reaction that arrives before you do
Some reactions arrive before we’ve had a chance to choose them. Rather than asking how to stop them, it can help to ask what they might be protecting.
Questions people often ask
Do I need to know what’s wrong before I come?
No. Many people arrive with a feeling, a question or a pattern they’ve noticed, rather than a clear problem. Working out what it’s about is part of what we do together.
Is what I say kept private?
Yes. What you share in sessions stays confidential. The only exception is a serious risk to your safety or someone else’s, or a legal requirement. If that ever happens, I’ll talk it through with you wherever I can.
Can we meet online, or in person?
Both. Online sessions are open to adults across India, and in-person sessions take place in Lucknow. You can choose either when you book.
How many sessions will I need?
Each session is 40 minutes and booked on its own, so you’re never committed to more than one. Some people come for a few sessions to understand one particular thing. Others prefer to meet over a longer period. We’ll talk about what makes sense as we go, and you’re always free to decide.
What if I need to cancel?
If you can, please let me know at least 24 hours before your session. That way the time can be offered to someone else, and we can find another one that suits you.
Do you also offer couples sessions?
Yes, online or in person in Lucknow. Within the 7-session couples plan, either of you can also have an individual session when it helps. You’ll find the details on the Fees & Booking page.
This is not an emergency service. If you are in crisis or thinking about harming yourself, call Tele-MANAS, India’s free 24/7 mental health helpline, on 14416 or 1-800-891-4416, or go to your nearest emergency department.
Ready when you are
If there’s something about yourself you’d like to understand rather than just get through, you’re welcome to book a session.